Tuesday, January 25, 2011

January 25, 2011 We are all still rejoicing

Tonight marks the first full day of Mom not being here on earth with us. I have spoken with alot of the family members and we're all in agreement that Mom is no longer suffering and we are so happy for her.  Dolly, Patty, and I went to the Westcott Funeral Home today and made all the arrangements for Mom's final resting for her body.  It feels like we were visiting an old friend.  Actually, Jim has been handling our family funeral arrangements for many years now.  We all sat around a table and he had Daddy's chart out so we could use it for reference if needed.  We got all the information for the death certificate, he listed all the things we felt we needed to give Mom's body the best final resting.  We chose a pretty but, kind of simple casket.  It is white with pink lining, so perfect for our little Mama who loved her pastels.  It just suited her.  Then we even chose the flower spray for the coffin.  Mom's request was for a closed casket.  We had taken the clothes that we wanted Mom buried in-right down to coordinated jewelry.  Everything went well and we all had a joyful spirit.  We chose the date for the service.  It is to be February 5th at 11:00am at Mom's church, Fellowship Baptist Lighthouse Church on Covered Bridge Rd. in Unadilla.  If anyone wants to send flowers they can be delivered right to the church.  We also have decided that if anyone wants to contribute in Mom's memory we would like it to be to the Catskill Area Hospice in Oneonta, the Alzhiemers Assoc., or to Mom's church.  I felt a little sadness tonight as everyone started to leave.  The last to leave was Dolly.  As I stood at the door to wave good-bye I got kind of teary-eyed.  I guess when it gets quiet reality has time to set in.  Don't get me wrong I am in no way wishing for Mom back, I am happy she is in Glory with her dear Jesus and all the loved one who have gone before, but I am feeling sad for me and all who knew Mom because we will no longer be able to see her in the physical.  I guess the tears are selfish tears.  I know that in time we will all be stronger but, as I have been told by many, we need this time.  So I leave you all tonight with a tear in my eye but a real lightness in my spirit cuz my Mama is at peace and is resting. Goodnight.

2 comments:

Dolly said...

As the quiet sat in - so did the hurt. Bill and Donna (Neal's daughter and her husband ) were here when I got home. I was a little surprised because - well just because.

As I checked my Facebook and saw that beautiful picture of Mom I cried and haven't been able to stop. I miss her so much but wouldn't want her back - maybe, I'm jealous because she's where I want to be but my work isn't done yet. I have to stay and strive to be a fraction of the person Mom was.

I wouldn't have traded the experience, of being with my family and ushering Mom into Heaven, for anything in this world. Five very strong women doing what we do best - pulling together to help one of our own and then to be joined by one of my children for the end (or beginning). Outstanding!

It's like the closeness you feel when you band together to welcome a new life into the world (only in reverse).

I love you all so much, thanks for the experience, we'll never be the same, again.

Shaniqua said...

You did AMAZING my mama dukes!! Still so proud of what you did for grams.